Melodramatic Mood Swingers
It is sometimes very difficult to accept the difference between the way that we think things should work out as opposed to the way that they do in real life.
I remember in high school when my friends would be having their respective issues with girls or boys, and telling them not to worry, because they were fabulous, they were wonderful, and that I thought it was quite baffling that they were having any troubles at all. I really did think that anyone who had a chance with one of the girls I was close with in high school would be absolutely crazy not to take it. They'd have to be insane. It was inconceivable.
And I believed what I was saying.
However, there's a flip side to all of this, and that's how the person who's telling all of this feels. This is sort of a response to all the comments on my last post, and they were wonderful and amazing and of course they will make me feel better...
But what it came down to in high school and what it still comes down to today, is that the person you are trying to make feel better about themself is only looking to hear those things from one person. When all you want is for someone to want you back and they don't, it's very hard to hear all the wonderful things your friends have to say about you. All you can focus on is how that one person doesn't want you.
And it's maddening.
You could have the person of your dreams, someone willing to give you the world, sitting right next to you, and it wouldn't matter in the slightest...your attention is elsewhere.
Granted, this is not a universal truth. But it does seem to happen a lot. Kinda like in "Win a Date with Tad Hamilton." 'Cause Topher Grace is the man.
Wherefore art thou? Or perhaps I know exactly where you are.
Crikey.
I remember in high school when my friends would be having their respective issues with girls or boys, and telling them not to worry, because they were fabulous, they were wonderful, and that I thought it was quite baffling that they were having any troubles at all. I really did think that anyone who had a chance with one of the girls I was close with in high school would be absolutely crazy not to take it. They'd have to be insane. It was inconceivable.
And I believed what I was saying.
However, there's a flip side to all of this, and that's how the person who's telling all of this feels. This is sort of a response to all the comments on my last post, and they were wonderful and amazing and of course they will make me feel better...
But what it came down to in high school and what it still comes down to today, is that the person you are trying to make feel better about themself is only looking to hear those things from one person. When all you want is for someone to want you back and they don't, it's very hard to hear all the wonderful things your friends have to say about you. All you can focus on is how that one person doesn't want you.
And it's maddening.
You could have the person of your dreams, someone willing to give you the world, sitting right next to you, and it wouldn't matter in the slightest...your attention is elsewhere.
Granted, this is not a universal truth. But it does seem to happen a lot. Kinda like in "Win a Date with Tad Hamilton." 'Cause Topher Grace is the man.
Wherefore art thou? Or perhaps I know exactly where you are.
Crikey.
posted by Tilly at 6:55 PM
5 Comments:
I know EXACTLY how you feel!
You are so exactly right, and it's so frustrating to so desperately desire that validation from that one person. I know just what you mean. Grr argh. Life is hard.
And it all ultimately leads back to the waiting... waiting for that validation, waiting for the response you want, waiting for realiziation. Waiting for everything to work out exactly like you want when you know it never will.
ugh tillybear i need you! ur sooo far away....well not really but it seems like it
ok, it's time to update now.
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